First came ghosting, then breadcrumbing: now there’s a new entry into our ever expanding lexicon of dating terminology – bird boxing. Taking its name from the popular Netflix movie which sees Sandra Bullock grappling her way through life in a post-apocalyptic world entirely blindfolded, this new trend follows much the same plot. Coined by romance experts over at Tinder, we fools of love are apparently “blind to just how bad your partner/the person you’re seeing is”. Guilty as charged.
For most of us, when the first throes of passion hit, our new crush can really do no wrong. Ah the honeymoon period, those crucial and intoxicating first few heady weeks and months when two become one and your life feels like the plot of a rom com.
Sleepless, lust-filled nights and candlelit dinners when you and your partner agree on absolutely everything and even their snoring is actually quite endearing. And you, entirely forgetting the great litany of failed romances that have come before, naively assume things will always be this way. Because how could this cherubic creature ever be anything other than perfect?
But, fast forward a few months, to them febreezing the bed sheets clean and sitting on the sofa in Y-fronts all day, and things look a lot less rosy.
Here are five ways to spot a budding bird boxer.
An easy-to-please attitude
In the initial stages of courting, your potential life partner’s easy going approach meant a happy, drama-free existence. You would happily take control of the social calendar and revel in creating grand plans for couples’ activities and day trips to quaint English villages with not so much as a peep or interjection from your other half. That novelty soon wears off, though, and the laissez-faire life approach begins to grow tiresome when all the emotional labour is falling to you. Next time, swipe left on the zen master.